Growing up, I was a fairly average height. I was the same size as all the other 8 year olds in my dance class, clothes fit, and life was easy. Then one day, when I was about 12, I started getting...not so average. By the time I was 15, I was 5'9", and everyone kept telling me how "You're going to be taller than your sister!" "I bet you'll be 6'!" These phrases rather annoyed me because I had zero desire to be taller than I already was. You see, something happens when you're tall. People start saying things. I don't know how it is for people of the more petite stature, but when you're tall people think they can comment about your height and it's OK because you're tall. Like being told they need a ladder to see you isn't offensive? Not to mention finding clothes becomes significantly more complicated. If I had a dollar for every time I've heard the phrase "You're so tall!" I could open my own trust fund.
Flash forward to present day, 7 years and 2 inches later, where people commenting about my height no longer bothers me (partial thanks to Taylor Swift and her glorious height) , and I've found a small abundance of tall clothing stores (blog post on that coming soon!) that make my life 10x easier. But now comes the burning question that so many people ask me: How do you wear heels when you're tall?
| Link to my shoes here. |
Confidence is what it's all about. There's no point in making yourself stand out even more if you're not comfortable with what you look like. I wish I could tell you there's some quick trick to gain the confidence you need to wear heels fully knowing you're going to tower over everyone else in the room; that you're not going to feel nervous, or awkward, having a group of people stare at you as you walk by because you're a good 5-10 inches taller than all of them. But the truth is, I can't. People are just going to stare at you when you're tall, especially if you wear heels, and that's just the way it is. Now by all means, don't feel like you have to wear heels if you don't want to , just because other people do. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable! Just be confident in whatever you choose to do.
2.) Work With What You Have
I've been told many times throughout my tall life that I "shouldn't wear heels" because they make me "too tall." Now I don't know about you, but when someone tells me I shouldn't do something, it's just fuel to make me want to do it. Why shouldn't I wear heels? Just because it makes me taller than everyone else? At any given time I'm already taller than 90% of the people in the room, so does a couple more inches really make a difference? I decided a long time ago that it doesn't. You have to work with what you have, and make the most out of what you are, because when it comes to your height, you can't change it.
3.) Love Yourself
Here's the thing. God made us all different, and there's no point in sitting around wishing you're something you're not, or playing the comparison game. Comparison steals your joy. It makes you put other's on a pedestal and feel bad about yourself. I'd be lying if I said I've always loved my height, or that I've always felt confident and comfortable in my own skin. I haven't. There was a time when I avoided wearing heels because I didn't want to tower over everyone. But at some point, I just decided that life is too darn short to not do something you want to do, just because people are going to look at you. So you put those heels on like the beautiful giraffe you are, and strut those long, amazing legs in all their tall glory.
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